Pro 31:11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.

Pro 31:11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. Pro 31:12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.  



Do our husbands trust in us? This goes far beyond just being physically faithfull to our husbands. It is in everything. Does he trust that we will respect him and his role as leader, regardless of how 'good' a leader he is. God demands his role be respected. 
Eph 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see husband. that she reverence her

It is more important for us to live a life worthy of honor and trust before our husbands. Whether he is living up to his role before God of loving you as Christ loved the church,  he will answer to God, as we will for what we do too.

Dear precious daughter of the King, we can not love and respect our husbands, to serve him selflessly and "do him good and not evil all the days of her life."  without the supernatural power of the holy spirit. We need to be in the word, on our knees before the Father, and lean on Him for everything



Php 4:6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Php 4:7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Php 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

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Precious Warriors? Mothers and the Voice of Wisdom (Proverbs 31:10-31)

An excellent sermon on the Proverbs 31 woman.

Precious Warriors? Mothers and the Voice of Wisdom (Proverbs 31:10-31)

Embracing Modesty

1Ti 2:9 likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 1Ti 2:10 but with what is proper for women who profess godliness--with good works.1Ti 2:11 Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness.

1Pe 3:3 Do not let your adorning be external--the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear-- 1Pe 3:4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. 1Pe 3:5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands,

I think this a very important subject and something that is mostly ignored even in the "christian" community. We are called to be separate from the world.  Does the world know you are a godly biblical woman by how you present yourself? We do have preferences and we like one color over another and I do think we have a certain liberty in Christ, but we must be careful to dress and act in a way that is proper for someone professing Christ and to be very sure that we do not dress in a way that would cause a brother to fall. God has placed this on my heart so much lately, sometimes I find myself wanting to look "cute" but I must ask, who am I looking "cute" for? I also know that we dress for our friends, "oh wait until they see this cute top I just got". Are we mindful of how our "cute top" is perceived by the opposite sex? I think much more important than looking cute or "feeling pretty", is being Godly!

Pro 31:30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

Please watch/listen to this sermon about how to dress modestly from a man's perspective and the biblical standard. I actually thought I dressed modestly until I watched this, and I actually changed my wardrobe, this is a serious topic, please take it to heart

Please take this to heart, our daughters are watching us, the world looks to see if we are different. We can still wear nice and feminine clothing, actually we are supposed to look like females. Our bodies are for our husbands and our husbands only! If you are not married you need to preserve yourself for your husband, do not cheapen God's creation by putting yourself on display for others. You are beautiful and your body is sacred and need to be treated as such.

Side note:

I also found this company "Simply Modest Swimwear"  this company makes and sells patterns for swimwear that actually covers you up! This is an area where so many, even Christians, don't pay attention. They dress modest, then they put on a bathing suit and they might as well be naked. Two piece swimsuits are absolutely out of the question, ONLY if you are in a completely private setting with your husband, even one pieces are too revealing, if you can't afford these swimsuits, please cover up with a large t-shirt, we must be mindful of these things, Moms please don't let your daughters wear these little swimsuits, besides being un-modest, there are simply too many perverts out there. We live in a fallen world and must live in a biblcal way and protect ourselves and our daughters.

Gods Sovereignty

This seems like an unusual topic for this blog, where I speak about how to be a godly wife, mother & woman. This is something I think we as women (all Christians) must get a firm grasp on. As women we really want to help, we help our children and our husbands and others around us, our friends and even strangers. I want to speak to something very specific, though. I struggled with this for a very long time (and I am still learning) we as women, in love for our husbands, feel we need to "help" them in their walk with God. We remind them to read their bibles, ask them "have you prayed today". We even cry out to God, "Lord please tell them to read your word etc." Praying for our husbands is so important and I encourage it. But what I am addressing today is our mindset. We are not in charge of our husband's spiritual growth. When we are being that voice always telling them what to do, read your bible, go pray with the Lord etc. we become God's voice to them. What I found was when I did that my husband, naturally so, would look to me to tell him how to "live" the christian life. I did this for a very long time, I felt that since I was the 'helper' I needed to help him know how to seek the Lord. What the Lord taught me was that I needed to step back, give over my husband to the Lord and let the Lord be his own voice in my husband's ear. I did that, I gave over my husband, I stopped reminding him to read his bible or pray or this or that. AND he noticed! He asked me what was going on, and I told him, I was honest, and I think it struck him. Guess what happened? Without my voice there, he felt a void and then started to seek God on his own, and started to grow! No longer was I wondering why he wasn't stepping up to be the spiritual leader, he learned it from spending time with God, the best teacher.

Now for you wives that have unbelieving husbands listen to the words of Peter, he to gave the instruction to be a quiet wife:

1Pe 3:1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 1Pe 3:2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

Now this doesn't mean that we are never to speak, I would pray to God to have discernment about when to open our mouths and when the Lord wants us to be quiet so He can be the one to speak.

You may be wondering what this has to do with God's sovereignty, it has everything to do with it, He is the one who draws, He is the one who speaks, He is the one who opens eyes, He is the one who gives understanding, and HE is the one who changes a heart. We can't do it, even with all our sincerity, it has to be him. So trust Him and lay everything, including husbands and children at His feet.

When we understand God's Sovereignty it puts us at ease and we can rest in Him and know he has it under control, and if God is 100% powerful and 100% good we can trust Him with everything!

Speaking Kindly

Pro 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

Jas 3:5 Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! Jas 3:6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.

We have alot of power in our words we speak to our families. Have you found yourself saying something to your children or husband and immediately know that your words cut them? James says our tongue has the ability to be so evil, we use it to bless the Lord then in the next breath we curse another. I have been learning to sometimes say nothing at all:

1Pe 3:1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 1Pe 3:2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

More than our words, we need to live a godly life in front of others, sometimes I think our words get us into trouble. See how it says "without a word". Proverbs 31:26, she opens her mouth with wisdom and she speaks with the law of kindness. Every time we open our mouths we need to ONLY open them when we will have kind and wise words to say.

Jas 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.

We need to go to the Lord and ask Him to give us this wisdom and kind words. As a helper to our husbands we have the amazing ability to tear down or build up, our words can wound and destroy our husbands or family ( and friends) or we can build up, encourage and strengthen those around us. Let us be godly in all conduct.

Joh 15:12 "This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Joh 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. Joh 15:14 You are my friends if you do what I command you. Joh 15:15 No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. Joh 15:16 You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. Joh 15:17 These things I command you, so that you will love one another.

Ruth

The Story of Ruth is a wonderful example of how God redeems a people and it is truly a love story, and a picture of Christ, our kinsman Redeemer.


I encourage all of you to go read the book of Ruth, it's only 4 chapters.


A back round of who Ruth was, she was a Moabite. They were a wicked people that worshiped false gods. They also were the result of an incestuous act between Lot and his daughters.


Gen 19:34 And it came to pass on the morrow, that the firstborn said unto the younger, Behold, I lay yesternight with my father: let us make him drink wine this night also; and go thou in, and lie with him, that we may preserve seed of our father. Gen 19:35 And they made their father drink wine that night also: and the younger arose, and lay with him; and he perceived not when she lay down, nor when she arose. Gen 19:36 Thus were both the daughters of Lot with child by their father. Gen 19:37 And the firstborn bare a son, and called his name Moab: the same is the father of the Moabites unto this day.


As you read the story this woman, though she came from an evil people, was a beautiful "Proverbs 31" woman. Read what she says to her mother-in-law after Ruth's husband dies and Naomi tries to have her leave and find a new husband from her own people.

Rth 1:16 But Ruth said, "Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Rth 1:17 Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried. May the LORD do so to me and more also if anything but death parts me from you."

As you read the story you will see she was hard working, (Pro 31:13 She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. & Pro 31:19 She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle.) Gathering grain in the field, she was quiet and wise ( Pro 31:26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.) Boaz notices her. When you read the rest of the story, you will see the picture of Boaz as her kinsman redeemer, and how she is restored, AND she has a child by the name of Obed, who was the father of Jesse, who was the father of David, from whose line Jesus came.

I see this as a beautiful picture of how God the Father arranged it so that in Jesus' line there were people that were not Jewish, but he saw fit to include different people, giving a picture of being the Redeemer of all peoples.

Ruth was an obedient, loving, honorable, woman, who feared the true and living God. She was a woman after God's own heart. 

She Looks to the Sky

This is a wonderful song about the church ( the bride of Christ) waiting for her Groom.

Strength and Honor are her clothing

Pro 31:25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.


A wonderful commentary:
 
Pro 31:25 Strength and honour are her clothing,.... Strength, not of body, but of mind. The church is clothed with strength, as her Lord, head, and husband, is said to be, Psa_93:1; and which she has from him; for though she is the weaker vessel, and weak in herself, yet is strong in him; and is able to bear and do all things, with a fortitude of mind to withstand every enemy, and persevere in well doing: and she is clothed with "honour"; with honourable garments, suitable to her rank and dignity; in cloth of gold, in raiment of needlework; with the garments of salvation, and the robe of righteousness;

and she shall rejoice in time to come; Aben Ezra interprets it of old age, or of the world to come; and Jarchi and Gersom of the day of death: having fullness of food and clothing, she is not afraid of want in old age, or in any time of distress that may come; and having a good name, laughs at death, and departs in peace; so these interpreters. The church of Christ fears no want at any time, nor need any of her members; they have a clothing that never waxes old, a righteousness that will answer for them in a time to come; their bread is given, and their waters are sure; they shall want no good thing; all their need is supplied from Christ; they have hope in their death, and rejoice then and sing, "O death, where is thy sting?" 1Co_15:55; they will have confidence in the day of judgment, and not be ashamed; shall come to Zion with everlasting joy; and shall rejoice with Christ, angels and saints, to all eternity.

 

Alot of people think that the bible makes women second-class. Since we are to be submissive to our own husbands, and servants to our families. In this whole passage of the "Proverbs 31 woman" we see this woman is powerful, she is dignified, she is lovely, and empowered. This is so different that what feminism tells us. The world tells us to be strong we leave our families behind and strike out on our own and be our own woman. A woman who fears the Lord knows all her strength comes from Him. From doing things His way. When we lean on the Lord for how we are to conduct ourselves as women, we find that we are in alignment with how we were created, there tends to be a peace the world can not give us. We can have joy that comes from Him, in spite of circumstance.

 

Let us embrace this, for we know God is perfect, if he says this is who he created us to be, then can we possibly know better? God's ways are higher and Holy, He is Lord and Master, we bow down to His feet. And ask, "Dear Lord how may I serve you today"

 

How we long for the day we hear...."Well done good and faithful servant"

 

 

Being a submissive wife

1 Peter 3:1-6
Likewise, wives be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external-- the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear, but let you adorning be the hidden person of the heart with imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their won husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.

How opposite this is from how the world tells us to be toward our husband! Even in some "Christian" circles, we need to "help" our husbands by telling them the 'better' way to do something, or showing them the "smarter" ( or our way) to go about handling things.
Notice it says "without a word" they won their husbands by their conduct. A quiet, submissive, respectful wife that fears the Lord, speaks louder to a man than any amount of words can. When we step back, let our husbands lead they will learn to 'step forward' into the role God created for them. Ladies if we keep stepping in to rescue them from their mistakes (perceived or real) they will never learn to rely on God for leadership, we step in and take over, when that is God's place. Sure they might make a mistake or fall on their face, we are there to comfort them, love them and show them respect, they will cry out to God for guidance, and when a man is being lead by God, there is nothing better.
See how the "gentle and quiet spirit" is precious in God's sight. Even if our husbands don't notice, God does. He is the one we should desire to please by our conduct than anyone else.

Let us meditate on what this means and how we can apply this to our own lives. Can you imagine what would happen if Godly women actually lived like this and didn't look like the rest of the world?

Welcome to "A Price Above Rubies"

The purpose of this blog is to bring women together, share with one another, and use scripture to teach all woman, including myself, what it means to be a woman that fears the Lord.

Proverbs 31:10-30
Who can find a virtous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safelty trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth s field, and buyeth it; with fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengthenth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She is not afraid of snow for her household: for all her household is clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

This is not easy to be, but with the Lord it is possible, we will explore what this means.