Gods Sovereignty

This seems like an unusual topic for this blog, where I speak about how to be a godly wife, mother & woman. This is something I think we as women (all Christians) must get a firm grasp on. As women we really want to help, we help our children and our husbands and others around us, our friends and even strangers. I want to speak to something very specific, though. I struggled with this for a very long time (and I am still learning) we as women, in love for our husbands, feel we need to "help" them in their walk with God. We remind them to read their bibles, ask them "have you prayed today". We even cry out to God, "Lord please tell them to read your word etc." Praying for our husbands is so important and I encourage it. But what I am addressing today is our mindset. We are not in charge of our husband's spiritual growth. When we are being that voice always telling them what to do, read your bible, go pray with the Lord etc. we become God's voice to them. What I found was when I did that my husband, naturally so, would look to me to tell him how to "live" the christian life. I did this for a very long time, I felt that since I was the 'helper' I needed to help him know how to seek the Lord. What the Lord taught me was that I needed to step back, give over my husband to the Lord and let the Lord be his own voice in my husband's ear. I did that, I gave over my husband, I stopped reminding him to read his bible or pray or this or that. AND he noticed! He asked me what was going on, and I told him, I was honest, and I think it struck him. Guess what happened? Without my voice there, he felt a void and then started to seek God on his own, and started to grow! No longer was I wondering why he wasn't stepping up to be the spiritual leader, he learned it from spending time with God, the best teacher.

Now for you wives that have unbelieving husbands listen to the words of Peter, he to gave the instruction to be a quiet wife:

1Pe 3:1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 1Pe 3:2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

Now this doesn't mean that we are never to speak, I would pray to God to have discernment about when to open our mouths and when the Lord wants us to be quiet so He can be the one to speak.

You may be wondering what this has to do with God's sovereignty, it has everything to do with it, He is the one who draws, He is the one who speaks, He is the one who opens eyes, He is the one who gives understanding, and HE is the one who changes a heart. We can't do it, even with all our sincerity, it has to be him. So trust Him and lay everything, including husbands and children at His feet.

When we understand God's Sovereignty it puts us at ease and we can rest in Him and know he has it under control, and if God is 100% powerful and 100% good we can trust Him with everything!