Embracing Modesty

1Ti 2:9 likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 1Ti 2:10 but with what is proper for women who profess godliness--with good works.1Ti 2:11 Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness.

1Pe 3:3 Do not let your adorning be external--the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear-- 1Pe 3:4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. 1Pe 3:5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands,

I think this a very important subject and something that is mostly ignored even in the "christian" community. We are called to be separate from the world.  Does the world know you are a godly biblical woman by how you present yourself? We do have preferences and we like one color over another and I do think we have a certain liberty in Christ, but we must be careful to dress and act in a way that is proper for someone professing Christ and to be very sure that we do not dress in a way that would cause a brother to fall. God has placed this on my heart so much lately, sometimes I find myself wanting to look "cute" but I must ask, who am I looking "cute" for? I also know that we dress for our friends, "oh wait until they see this cute top I just got". Are we mindful of how our "cute top" is perceived by the opposite sex? I think much more important than looking cute or "feeling pretty", is being Godly!

Pro 31:30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

Please watch/listen to this sermon about how to dress modestly from a man's perspective and the biblical standard. I actually thought I dressed modestly until I watched this, and I actually changed my wardrobe, this is a serious topic, please take it to heart

Please take this to heart, our daughters are watching us, the world looks to see if we are different. We can still wear nice and feminine clothing, actually we are supposed to look like females. Our bodies are for our husbands and our husbands only! If you are not married you need to preserve yourself for your husband, do not cheapen God's creation by putting yourself on display for others. You are beautiful and your body is sacred and need to be treated as such.

Side note:

I also found this company "Simply Modest Swimwear"  this company makes and sells patterns for swimwear that actually covers you up! This is an area where so many, even Christians, don't pay attention. They dress modest, then they put on a bathing suit and they might as well be naked. Two piece swimsuits are absolutely out of the question, ONLY if you are in a completely private setting with your husband, even one pieces are too revealing, if you can't afford these swimsuits, please cover up with a large t-shirt, we must be mindful of these things, Moms please don't let your daughters wear these little swimsuits, besides being un-modest, there are simply too many perverts out there. We live in a fallen world and must live in a biblcal way and protect ourselves and our daughters.

Gods Sovereignty

This seems like an unusual topic for this blog, where I speak about how to be a godly wife, mother & woman. This is something I think we as women (all Christians) must get a firm grasp on. As women we really want to help, we help our children and our husbands and others around us, our friends and even strangers. I want to speak to something very specific, though. I struggled with this for a very long time (and I am still learning) we as women, in love for our husbands, feel we need to "help" them in their walk with God. We remind them to read their bibles, ask them "have you prayed today". We even cry out to God, "Lord please tell them to read your word etc." Praying for our husbands is so important and I encourage it. But what I am addressing today is our mindset. We are not in charge of our husband's spiritual growth. When we are being that voice always telling them what to do, read your bible, go pray with the Lord etc. we become God's voice to them. What I found was when I did that my husband, naturally so, would look to me to tell him how to "live" the christian life. I did this for a very long time, I felt that since I was the 'helper' I needed to help him know how to seek the Lord. What the Lord taught me was that I needed to step back, give over my husband to the Lord and let the Lord be his own voice in my husband's ear. I did that, I gave over my husband, I stopped reminding him to read his bible or pray or this or that. AND he noticed! He asked me what was going on, and I told him, I was honest, and I think it struck him. Guess what happened? Without my voice there, he felt a void and then started to seek God on his own, and started to grow! No longer was I wondering why he wasn't stepping up to be the spiritual leader, he learned it from spending time with God, the best teacher.

Now for you wives that have unbelieving husbands listen to the words of Peter, he to gave the instruction to be a quiet wife:

1Pe 3:1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 1Pe 3:2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

Now this doesn't mean that we are never to speak, I would pray to God to have discernment about when to open our mouths and when the Lord wants us to be quiet so He can be the one to speak.

You may be wondering what this has to do with God's sovereignty, it has everything to do with it, He is the one who draws, He is the one who speaks, He is the one who opens eyes, He is the one who gives understanding, and HE is the one who changes a heart. We can't do it, even with all our sincerity, it has to be him. So trust Him and lay everything, including husbands and children at His feet.

When we understand God's Sovereignty it puts us at ease and we can rest in Him and know he has it under control, and if God is 100% powerful and 100% good we can trust Him with everything!